Losing my will to live usually triggers life’s endgame. Now by the endgame, you’re probably thinking suicide, but in reality it doesn’t always have to be the case. When you feel as though you have to lost the will to live, it essentially means that everything you have tried uptil now to make sense of everything has unfortunately failed. this includes every aspect of your life that shapes you as a human being and has been the reason for existence.
The subjectivity around the concept makes, it very difficult to pinpoint exactly what went wrong. when
The Will to Live and the Endgame
the endgame is essentially a point of no return. this is where you feel that based on your experiences, you have connected all the dots together and you are unable to find any light at the end of the tunnel. now as I said before, this could lead to suicide or completely withering away but it could also lead to you accepting that you probably never going to be happy again.
Happiness is essentially what we’re all after but when you feel as though it is something beyond you, given your current state of affairs, that is when you know that you are losing the will to live. Hence, the bone of contention is happiness and if i feel that my will to live has left me, that is when i should know that i have basically died. it is like being buried in the depths of hopelessness without any chance of reprieve. At this stage, people who are chronically depressed probably come to the conclusion that the’re battle is going to continue for the rest of their life.
Most people around the world and myself relate their existence and the true purpose of their life to a particular religion. For the most part, being religious essentially means that you live for a supernatural afterlife, that is largely dependent on your actions in this world. Whatever form that takes, people are game. they believe that this world is a test for the Hereafter, therefore, it is difficult to understand how anyone can stay happy in this world. the feeling of losing my will to live can only exasperate if you well and truly abide by doctrines of the organized religions in the world.
There are two ways to look at this though, firstly, the hope for a proverbial heaven in the afterlife, is not as bad as you might think. it can be a source of motivation and strength to push on and finding the will to live. after all, what could be more motivating than living forever in peace. however, nothing is that simple with religion. when you focus your efforts on the afterlife, you tend to lose out on your true purpose in this life. you wonder whether chasing your goals means anything, and eventually you pull the plug on your intensity. following religion is inherently depressing, because all your efforts are driven towards a goal that you can only hope to achieve once you die. with religion, there come restrictions, which tend to heavily impact your dreams and aspirations about life. hence, many of the times a strong adherence to religion can make you perpetually sad.
Dreams in Darkness
Many consider being happy to be life’s ultimate goal. the question is what really makes people happy? people tend to have differing opinions on this but I personally believe along with countless other people that true happiness can be found. if you’re actively pursuing your dreams, you feel alive and living life to the fullest. however, if you’re forcing yourself into something you hate or have no interest in, you’re bound to be unhappy. according to a study, nearly 50% of employees in the world are dissatisfied with their jobs. despite the futility of their decision-making and their awareness, they are unable to take what could be the best decision of their lives. however, they, for the most part, are never able to muster the courage to dream big and chase their dreams.
so that means people who tend to after their dreams not only have the will to live but are able to sustain their happiness forever. if that’s the case what about the suicides of Robin Williams, Curt Cobain, Chester Bennington, Anthony Bourdain, and others. weren’t they supposedly going after their dreams too? this ambiguity and possible blemishes tend to have an impact on what people think about the importance of chasing their dreams. if it doesn’t always bring you happiness then what’s the point of going through all that hullabaloo. this is when people lose the desire to live and find ways to validate their lack of proactivity.
At the End What Matters is Family
Most of us work day in and day out for our families. many would suggest that family is what fuels their fire on a daily basis in going through all the stress and pain of their routine. with that being said,
the reality is that people associate their will to live to different things as unfortunately, these things have proven to be futile to an extent. it all really boils down to your own thinking and how you perceive things to be.
What to do When You’ve Lost Your Will
Naturally, the question now is that what to do when you’ve lost the will to live? as amazing as it may sound, there are a lot of things that you can do to change your outlook about your life.
Getting Involved in Productive Activities
getting more active and adopting a healthier lifestyle should not be contingent upon what mental state you are in currently. whether my will to live is lost or not, I should not let it shroud my lifestyle choices. let’s start with exercise. exercise is not just about
Reading is another activity that boost your feelings of connectedness and fellowship. reading stimulates your brain and boosts your creativity allowing you to become more responsive. this could be in the form an e-book but as a conventionalist, i do believe that its best to go the traditional route.
from a personal standpoint, though i feel that it is not really about your awareness of how exercise can benefit you or not. everyone knows that exercise helps in all the above mentioned areas but what people with depression do is that they fall into the trap of false equivalency
Avoiding the Trap of False Equivalency
Perhaps the biggest hurdle you are bound to face in finding the will to live revolves around the problem of false equivalency. one of my friends, Johnathan, an avid tennis fan and club player, was absent from the courts for over a week. everyone at the court was shocked by this, and
for you to truly find the will to live again, you need to stop illogically connecting things that are productive to your damaged mental state. taking the above example, by playing tennis, Johnathan could relieve himself from all that anxiety and stress for at least five hours of his life. so what’s the problem then? the problem is the incorrect thought process that falsely equates one thing to the other with no rhyme or reason.
Staying off Social Media
the perils of using social media excessively have been well documented in recent years. numerous studies have come out and have ascertained how social media creates a sense of insecurity, stress, and fosters depression. i for one, totally agree with the critics of social media platforms and feel that it has fundamentally changed the way we communicate. Does it have it benefits? yes it does but its benefits are heavily outnumbered by its disadvantages. everything is out in the open now, and it feels as if you have to broadcast your personal life to the world. you’re desperately seeking the approval of people in the form of likes and shares, but what you don’t get is how much damage you’re doing to your mental state in the process. social media is a virtual environment and is inherently different to human beings should communicate with each other. the widespread exposure to useless information, fake news, and personal pictures of your friends makes you second guess your life and alters your mental state.
as with any mental health problem you need to speak up and not be ashamed about it. depression is increasing with every passing day and people are battling similar mental health issues on a daily basis. so what’s the shame in talking about it with your family or your friends. often the response is that what would they know? my response to that you need to understand the value of letting your feelings out regardless of an outcome. it comes down to the point about false equivalency because why do people need to know about each and everything before they can hear you out? its best to let your feelings out and listening to their point of view or if nothing, the catharsis will help you get better
I Guess You Have it All Figured Out!
My will to live is dependent upon several things that only